Harry Potter and the Feminization of America

by Tyler Minton

What is the world coming to?

Ever find yourself in a situation and wonder: “How did I end up here”? Friday morning, November, 19 at 12:00am (yes- ante meridiem), I found myself in such a place. Now, I’m not going to lie.  I am partially responsible for my situation.  You see, when I was in 5th grade, I read the first Harry Potter book.  You know, before it was “cool” to read about wizards, and vampires.  So, 11 years and seven books later, I can bravely say yes, I have enjoyed reading Harry Potter over the years.  I mean, give me a break; I was 10 years old when the first book was published!  Anyways, so at the age of 22, the final movie of the Harry Potter book made movie series makes its debut.  I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to see the movie.  After all, more than half my life has been during the Harry Potter “fad”.  However, I would also be lying if I said I cared enough to want to see the movie at midnight.  As a professional MMA fighter, I train as a full time job, therefore my sleep is HIGHLY valued and desperately needed.  In my eyes, NO movie is worth seeing at midnight.  My mother however who has reached that age where she no longer has a “child”, thought it would be a sweet and appreciated gift to “surprise” me with tickets to see the premier of Harry Potter 7.  Seeing as how this has been a tradition of ours since I was 13, it wasn’t worth breaking her heart to explain that I crave sleep like a heroin addict craves the white stuff.

In the two hours we had to wait for the movie to begin (yes- 120 minutes), I came to several realizations.  First off, I began to realize how blessed I was growing up.  I mean, obviously I had a great home life which involved many cornball “Christmas Story” moments, but my life was much more.  I grew up in a blue collar home.  A home where boys were tough because they wanted to be like dad.  A home where no TV show was good enough to draw me indoors when the woods and my Ruger 10/22 made me an 8 year old Sgt. York.  Where lying was punishable by a belt, and over crying was punishable by more belt.  Where sports were encouraged and quitting was never an option.  I mean after all, my parents were hard workers, why would they raise their son any other way?

During this two hour wait however, I also witnessed the reprecussion of a younger generation raised quite differently than me, despite being only 10 years or so younger.  When I was 13, would I have attended this same Harry Potter movie?  Of course.  Would I have attended it in a wizards robe with my pale skinny feminine friend at my side?  No, for many reasons.  First off, my parents wouldn’t let me out of the house looking like Merlin.  Second, I didn’t have pale skinny feminine friends.  My friends were baseball cap wearing kids with dirt behind their ears just like I was.  I was appaled at the way these kids were acting.  I’m not condoning hazing, but these kids would’ve been stuffed in lockers 15 years ago.  I found myself questioning what has happened to society that this kind of public display of idiocy could be so widely accepted.  Why did I, who read the first Harry Potter book the same year it came out, never have a desire to dress like a wizzard, when obviously these kids got a completely different experience from the book?

The answer is simple- Society has pushed “tough” out the door, and accepted “sensitive”.  Parents are raising their kids to be “little adults” who are capable of forming their own opinions of the world around them, and who should do whatever makes them comfortable in their own skin.  The problem is, comfort is lazy and their own skin is too smooth.  What happened to parents who weren’t afrad to pull their children out of a Church service to whip them because they wouldn’t keep their mouth shut?  What happened to parents who encouraged their kids to play tackle football in the yard with their friends and didn’t intervene when the game became a fist fight?  What happened to parents who taught their children to respect their elders, as well as themselves, and the importance of representing your families bloodline?  I had such parents.  I thank God every day for them, and situations like what I just described only make me appreciate them further.

Tyler and his Dad after one of Tyler’s victories.

Now, I understand how “childish” I risk making myself look in writing this and I don’t care.  Although I am a fighter, I have never claimed to be a stone cold tough guy, and could care less if anyone views me as such.  I wrote this article out of pure honesty to display my opinions of society.  I undertstand that members of “other strength forums” will ridicule me for the things I have said.  Anytime they want to step in the cage with me they can Google my name and find my bio with hometown.  For all you “villains” who are fellow honest, hard workers, I hope you enjoy the things I have written and take the time to be thankful that you were raised in a Blue Collar Generation.

Villain Apparel sponsored fighter, Tyler “Melee” Minton is a newcomer to professional MMA after amassing an impressive amateur career with a record of 8-1. As an amateur, Tyler held several titles including the ISKA TN State Middleweight Title, XFN US Southeast Middleweight Title, and XFN US Middleweight Title. Tyler is known for his exceptional work ethic, unparalleled conditioning, and great attitude. He will be a regular contributor to StrengthVillain.com, and will be participating in events that we will be putting on.


73 Responses

  1. Andy

    Wow, I was just thinking about this same thing last night after seeing a Twilight commercial. The male gender of today is being applauded for being more feminine. The hyper-sensitive parenting generation is also upon us.

    November 29, 2010 at 8:27 am

  2. David Long

    Thanks for a great article! This whole “pussy” generation is making me sick. There is way too much crying on radio, tv and real life. We pushed so far away from the bullying environment (I am not a fan of bullies)that we are raising boys to be womebn when they grow up. It is about time people started standing up against this bullshit.

    November 29, 2010 at 11:34 am

  3. BMac

    Maybe your parents should have used that belt to knock the intolerance out of you. Blue Collar Generation? Kids in costume? Dude – ease up. Is it that much different than you playing soldier, or cowboys and indians? Did one of them try to goose you with their wizard wand 😉

    Unless they are clients avoiding training in order to immerse themselves in Harry Potter? Who cares? If kids want to be kids, let them.

    It’d be more understandable if you were talking about the 40 year old in that line in costume, that show more dedication to a fantasy life, than taking care of themselves in the real one.

    But again, who cares? Every generation thinks the one after them is a bunch of pussies. Mind your own training, and set an example through your actions.

    November 29, 2010 at 11:53 am

  4. RoboCop

    FUCKIN’ A!!!! Great article T!

    November 29, 2010 at 11:59 am

  5. Drew

    Fucking excellent article man. I think a belt is a great learning tool, its not punishment, its corrective action, lol!

    November 29, 2010 at 12:21 pm

  6. Tyler Minton

    It was my fathers tool of choice…Ha

    November 29, 2010 at 12:26 pm

  7. Tyler Minton

    Thank you for the lesson in tolerance. If you read carefully you will see the word “I” used throughout my article. “I” used this word to show possession of something. That something being this article that “I” wrote. These are my opinions and observations. You’re entitled to your own opinions but don’t imply that I’m intolerant because the sight of 13 year olds dressed like wizards “dueling” on the stairs with twigs made me sick to my stomach. Also, there is a big difference in me playing soldier in the woods in back yard. The difference is I didn’t wear my face paint to see “Saving Private Ryan” in theaters and pretend to shoot other people. Oh yea, not to mention the fact that my Ruger 10/22 wouldn’t make it past security. I guess there’s a difference in a Ruger and twig- The kids in the theater managed to get their “weapons” in.

    November 29, 2010 at 4:52 pm

  8. BMac

    Aw, man… I wasn’t trying to say that you are intolerant, just to take it easy on a bunch of 13 year olds. Save the aggravation for the 16 year old emos in skinny jeans that should know better.

    November 29, 2010 at 5:28 pm

  9. KittyMctaco

    Tyler…you are bad ass.

    This one is for you (sorry I do not have one of you walking in this is the best I could do)


    November 29, 2010 at 6:49 pm

  10. Mr. Lupara

    I agree that most of the younger people these days are being coddled and breast fed into their 20’s it makes me sick. I know people my age(27) who still can’t do their own laundry. It makes me sick. We live in a society that tries to force everyone to be politically correct and allows people to believe that being emaciated little bitches and whining and crying about everything is acceptable. To the people that live this way I say eat something, quit crying and say what’s on your mind.

    November 29, 2010 at 8:34 pm

  11. ILiftAlone

    How does kids dressing up like their favorite characters make them feminine? Sounds like kids just being kids to me. And your comparison about dressing up to go see Saving Private Ryan makes no sense. Saving Pvt. Ryan is not a kids movie, it is a serious film about war, so of course your not going to disrespect war vets by wearing a costume to see it.

    Sounds like you should try to lighten up bit and try not to get sick at the sight of kids having innocent fun.

    November 29, 2010 at 9:32 pm

  12. Tyler Minton

    That song gets me every time. Ha

    November 29, 2010 at 9:40 pm

  13. Vim

    In some ways i wish my parents had been more like yours. Im not saying they were bad while i was growing up, very supportive in fact.

    But, i got bullied all the way through school, and even at uni, and i just wish when i was 13 years old, my Dad had told me to punch the cunts in the face, rather than “tell the teacher” or “ignore them”. I think a lot of things would be different now.

    Im 20, and its taken me this long to realise that i dont have to be nice to everyone, and that some people do just need their nose breaking to make them realise when theyre in the wrong. But i guess 2 years worth of serious depression would do that to anyone 😉 Im just glad i realise i need to do something about it now.

    Back to the harry potter thing though – totally agree. My brother, whos 16, went to see it with his mates. Who dressed up. Thankfully ive taught him well enough that his response to the idea was “fuck that”.

    November 29, 2010 at 10:28 pm

    • Tyler Minton

      I got picked on through school too my friend. In fact, I attribute a lot of my work ethic and tough mentality to it. I’m not bitter, and in fact am now best friends with one of the guys who made my life hell through school. However, it always makes me smile when someone who used to make fun of me now walks up to me and wants to talk about my fighting career and about how they’ve always liked me. It just reminds me of where I came from and what I’ve become.

      November 29, 2010 at 10:46 pm

  14. Graunie

    I think there is some truth here, but I don’t beat my kids and have no plans to. I don’t know if you have kids or get to see them in action but monkey see monkey do. If you hit them you are basically telling them it is okay to hit others. When they get older I’m sure they will have no issue figuring out when it is really okay to take care of business and when it’s not.

    November 29, 2010 at 10:50 pm

  15. Tyler Minton

    When did I even mention that the parents should hit their kids, or mention that I was hit? I was whipped as a child when I acted up. Just like most good children were.

    November 30, 2010 at 7:32 am

  16. Tyler Minton

    Please refer to my picture at the beginning of the article and then ask yourself the same question. Also, ask yourself what “kid” is. 7-8 years old, OK. These “kids” were 13-18 years old. These are the “kids” that are driving on the roads and will soon be enrolling in college. Also, please excuse my reference to “Saving Private Ryan”. I didnt pre analyze my comparison and make sure that it compared in every tiny little detail.

    November 30, 2010 at 7:36 am

  17. Jorge


    I’m sure you have many pieces of valuable wisdom to offer when it comes to training and MMA fighting. However, this article contained none of those things, and consisted instead of your own opinions on some controversial topics which you must have known not everyone would share. Personally, I found the whole thing to be in poor taste and don’t think it reflects well on you.

    That said, while I know this is difficult, the fact that you’re arguing with every commenter who criticizes it makes it look worse. Consider that it might be a good idea to simply ignore the comments, or better yet take them under consideration for the future and move on. Your article ought to stand on its own without you antagonistically defending it from every mild criticism.

    November 30, 2010 at 8:31 am

    • Tyler Minton

      My biggest issue here is that I have no idea what the big fuss is about. I am not slamming Harry Potter children in any way. Ask I discussed, I’ve read every single book and although I read very close if not over 100 books a year, I still think they are among the best written books available. Also, I am a big fan of the movies and as I said, have seen them all on the premier night.
      With that being said, I have NO IDEA what the big deal is about me making observations about the way teenagers were acting. I’m sure everyone has had negative thoughts before concerning the way a younger generation was acting based on their music, language, dress, television or attitude. The only difference is, I voiced my opinion. The fact that people are even offended by my article directly proves my point and their statements are doing a better job at describing why I feel the way I do than my article can.
      The thing that is aggravating me the most is, you and the other Dr. Spocks who are trying to call me intolerant and out of line, were the first to proudly voice your opinion to let others know that you are not in agreement with me. I am responding to all of you because I’m proudly voicing my opinion that I stand by what I said and am not ashamed.
      To your response about this making me look bad- I doubt it. Only 30% of the responses to this article were negative. That leaves 70% of those who responded in agreement with me. So, if I look bad to the 3 out of 10 people who responded, I’m OK with that. As to my argument standing on its own- again, with 70% of commenter’s agreeing with me, I would have to say it’s standing pretty tall.

      November 30, 2010 at 5:06 pm

  18. ILiftAlone

    That picture looks no different than the jocks at my highschool who dressed up as girls for halloween (graduated in ’02). And yes, even at 18 your are still a kid. Legally you are an adult at 18 but people mature at different speeds and I know now at 27 that I was still a kid at 18. The point is, that guys have been doing this for a long time, and will continue to do so. Im not trying to convince you that feminization hasn’t become more prevelant, I just don’t think anything you said really proves that it has.

    And once again it seems like you have not really thought out your response. What is so bad about allowing people, who dress up in ways you do not approve of, to drive and enroll in college? Are you implying that by dressing up in a feminine way they should not be allowed to do so? Maybe I am missing your point, but I think that is because you are not really explaining it.

    November 30, 2010 at 4:55 pm

    • Tyler Minton

      I used a specific example I experienced to express my belief of a broader point. This article was in no way meant to be an anecdote for the way children should live. If you are missing my point, there’s nothing more I can do to explain it. Maybe you need to ask Vim, Mr. Lupara, Robocop, Drew, Andy, KittyMctaco, and David Long. They seemed to understand and agree with me. Maybe they have the time and word simplicity to explain my disgust further.

      November 30, 2010 at 5:13 pm

  19. Tyler

    Tyler, nice article. Don’t listen to all of these pussies. You don’t have to justify yourself or your opinions. Kids are kids and they should act as such but for some reason I have a hard time believing that teenagers dressing up as fairies doesn’t result in these same individual’s growing up as as useless members of society (i.e. still living with parents at 30 years old, ten advanced degrees but no job, crying for government assistance etc…) As far as abusing children, I don’t believe in it, but spanking is not abusing. If more kids got the belt then America wouldn’t be in the mess we are in today. It’s about accepting responsibility for what you have done, taking your lumps and going on with life, learning to be a better person. But what do I know, I only work 3 jobs as a single father to support my two children who their mother left because she was handed everything and not made to accept responsibility.

    November 30, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    • Ha, my other favorite Tyler chiming in.

      Well said.

      November 30, 2010 at 5:08 pm

    • ILiftAlone

      Tyler, if you can prove that dressing up as a farie results in failing later in life you will become a rich man. Unfortunately for you, just because you have a feeling that something is true in no way means that it is true. Just imagine if the world started basing all decisions off of feelings and hunches, and leaders past and present did not have to justify their actions and beliefs. What a fucked up world that would be right? Oh wait, you wouldnt be able to have an opinion in the first place. But I guess thats just being a “pussy” in your opinion, your worthless opinion to be honest. Any jackass can come up with an opion, sexual predators and mass murderes have plenty of them, few people can actually provide reasoning as to why and how they came to that conclusion.

      November 30, 2010 at 5:21 pm

  20. Tyler Minton

    You my friend are a product of the Blue Collar Generation I was talking about. You’re working three jobs to raise a family, when lesser men are complaining about their one job because they had to stay an extra hour, and while others are abandoning their children. I have no doubt in my mind that you will be passing down your work ethic to your children!

    November 30, 2010 at 5:17 pm

  21. Tyler

    Haha, that doesn’t make them lesser men or anything else, it just is what it is and sometimes you do what you gotta do. I do have a good support system because my parents love their children and in the end that’s what it’s all about.

    November 30, 2010 at 5:24 pm

  22. Tyler

    Oh, and ILiftAlone, sexual predators and mass murderers would be the guys dressed up as fairies as teenagers. It doesn’t get any more sexually deviant than that.

    November 30, 2010 at 5:28 pm

  23. ILiftAlone

    Tyler, if you can proveyour statement true, you would have a great arguement. So far however, everything I have read has just been statements with little to nothing to back them up.

    As I said before, having an opinion is completely meaningless. Anyone can make an opinion because its one of the easiest things you can possibly do. Nowadays with the internet anyone can voice their opinion and reach a broad audience. What is important is finding out which opinions are worth listening to. These would be opinions that are backed up by fact and reason, and can be justified by those who hold them. That is what is rare, opinions themselves are very common, which is why they are worthless.

    November 30, 2010 at 6:08 pm

  24. Tyler Minton

    Dude, do you not realize that you are being hypocritical here? All you are expressing is opinions. Don’t sit here and make opinions about my article, and then bash Tyler for his opinions.

    November 30, 2010 at 6:12 pm

    • ILiftAlone

      No im not. I am asking him to prove the statements he is making in response to me. He said kids who dress up turn out to be child molesters and murderers. Same with you, your article really did not prove anything or contain any real content other than describing your childhood, how kids dress up, and how that somehow equals the pussification of society wich is why there are so many failures in life.

      I am not bashing anyone. The fact that opinions are worthless is true, because everyone has them. An opinion means nothing if you cant explain it and back it up.

      November 30, 2010 at 9:33 pm

      • Tyler Minton

        I’m beginning to understand exactly why “you lift alone”. We’re talking about opinions here. Not scientific fact. Nobody has to support their opinions based on fact. I voiced my opinion. I did not set out to prove any scientific theory of childhood de-evolution. The more you and others keep responding to my article, the less I need to “back it up”. You are quickly proving yourself to be a highly useful “Reference Page” for my argument on societies de-evolution. Stay tuned- I may call on you to provide further evidence.

        November 30, 2010 at 10:17 pm

        • ILiftAlone

          Nobody has to “prove opinions based on fact”, you are correct. Nobody has to do ANYTHING do they? However, if you wish to be taken with any sort of seriousness at all, which I am assuming you do otherwise why write the article, it is a good idea to explain things. I guess I should not have expected to take the articles written on here seriously, you are correct about that also. I will, from now on, expect the articles on here to be full of ideas that connot be explained when questioned and save myself the time of bothering to ask for clarification.

          I wont even bother to ask how asking questions is proof of de-evolution. I also wont bother to ask why a publicly written and opinion based article, which makes statements about society, should not be questioned just because its not a scientific theory. I asked you some questions and all you did was get defensive and avoided giving me any real answers.

          I attempted to have a discussion with you but instead you spun this as me attacking you somehow.

          November 30, 2010 at 10:52 pm

  25. Jord_on

    We could have used an article like this years ago. Most of these type kids are the ones blasting emo music whilst they act like tough guys from behind their keyboards. God forbid we pry the xbox controller out of their hand and slap a football in their chest and tell them to go outside.

    November 30, 2010 at 7:21 pm

  26. Keith

    First, thanks JP for this website. I have found a new home. Tyler, I think your op-ed piece here is GREAT. It is your opinion, you are entitled to it and, quite frankly, I agree with it. If folks dont like or agree with it they can go back to their ambigously gay websites or better yet CLICK CTRL + W and go lift…. Keep training and writing, man. This is good stuff. Unfortunately, it is appearant that some folks here are guilty of “paralysis due to overanalysis” and by definition can’t enjoy the article you wrote. Correct me if i’m wrong, but “Paralysis due to Overanalysis” is not Villainous, is it?

    November 30, 2010 at 8:05 pm

  27. Jenn

    Iliftalone – shut the fuck up.

    November 30, 2010 at 10:28 pm

  28. Cat

    Lots of comments. I was brought up in a strict household where I had a job at 12, helped my dad on Saturdays around the house and would get a stern look if I even thought about talking back to my parents let alone using foul language. I, as a female, have seen the male population change from my fathers and grandfathers generation to what it is today and personally I think it sucks . Even if I have a Ton of cash someday, my children will be taught that it’s important to have a solid work ethic.

    November 30, 2010 at 10:46 pm

  29. Vim

    i do think some people have missed the point here. This isnt about Harry Potter, that just happens to be a recent example. I dont think anyone is objecting to the 9-13 year olds dressing up and having fun.

    But there was a time when guys aged about 17+ would have met the idea of dressing up to see a film with a confused frown. Not anymore it seems.

    Another easy example; what is it with guys and fucking hair straighteners these days? Or wearing womens jeans?

    December 1, 2010 at 12:15 am

  30. Jorge

    Yeah and how about those gays, can’t we just put them on boxcars and send them off somewhere already?

    December 1, 2010 at 1:51 am

  31. Tyler Minton

    Nice try, but your attempt to compare our words with hate towards gays is empty. One of my best friends was an Olympic wrestler and now a professional fighter. He’s on of the toughest guys I know. When someone talks about someone dressing too femininely or acting weak, do not automatically associate that with homophobia. I see more straight guys these days wearing what could be their girlfriends clothes than I do gay people. This isn’t about gays or children. It’s about people like yourself accepting this new age of spineless parents who raise their children to be spineless “little adults”. If you want to continue to try and make this an issue of homophobia I will just write an article on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, and really give you something to talk about.

    December 1, 2010 at 8:17 am

    • Tyler Minton

      My friend who wrestled nationally and competes professionally in MMA is gay btw. That’s what I was getting at when I mentioned him…

      December 1, 2010 at 9:47 am

  32. Geno Pain

    This was a great article, I can’t agree with you more. The skinny jean, Emo, Weenie generation is just sickening and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. I’ll admit dressing up can be fun but that’s if your dressing up as Cordel Walker or something. At 2 and a half years old I already see what direction I’m headed in life and it’s definitely not that one.

    P.S. Thanks Daddy for having an awesome website that I can read.

    December 1, 2010 at 8:56 am

  33. Jorge

    I see. So you don’t hate fags (you’re friends with one after all!) you just hate when boys act feminine. You feel that “feminization” and “sensitivity” indicate some kind of moral failing or inadequacy. Does that make you merely a misogynist instead of a homophobe? It’s still okay to keep women in their place, right?

    And you apparently believe this is a new trend resulting from a lack of corporal punishment, or something. Except you haven’t done any actual research or investigation whatsoever into the complex topics you address, so what we’re left with is merely a showcasing of your prejudices.

    Have you ever asked yourself why it’s so important for you to enforce heteronormativity? If you’re going to write a defense of the patriarchy, can’t you at least bring something novel to the table instead of regurgitating a bunch of cliched postures?

    Anyway, I don’t really expect to enlighten you or anyone else through the comments here, so I won’t chime in again. It’s just depressing to see someone so young expressing such a regressive and poorly-considered viewpoint in public, and I feel it would be wrong to let it go totally unchallenged. Before your inevitable reply, feel free to look up any of the above words that you’re not familiar with, you just might learn something. Good luck!

    December 1, 2010 at 11:33 am

  34. Tyler Minton

    I actually have a degree in English from East Tennessee State University so I understand your words. I can Xerox you a copy of my diploma if you need concrete proof since that seems to be all you are concerned with.

    Anyways, thank you for turning my observations at a Harry Potter movie into a discussion of of homo sexual and womens rights. That’s exactly the message I had hidden in my “regurgitated cliche of postures”. I’m sorry that its so depressing for you to hear someone so young who is unafraid to still have conservative values and refuses to be corrupted by liberal ideology just because it has become socially popular to do so. This great country was founded by guys who share my beliefs and is being destroyed by those who don’t.

    I apologize that I didn’t “research or investigate” this complex topic which states my OPINION on a PUBLIC FORUM. My professors must have left out the part where an opinion needs to include a list of references at the end of it.

    Also, the mere fact that I would even NEED to discuss the importance of heteronormativity (naturalized categorical gender roles), pretty much re-enforces my disgust.

    As far as me being a misogynist (hater of women), you must have found my certificate of admission into the “He-Man Woman Haters Club” under Co-founders Alfalfa and Spanky. I was sure that I destroyed those documents along with my “Anarchist Cookbook” and autographed copy of “Mein Kampf”. Great detective work. Nothing gets past you Elitists and your big words.

    If the article I have written offends you, this may not be the forum for you. We consistently offer “masculine” opinions which apparently may be offensive to some, so “viewer discretion is advised”. I’m a regular contributor here and have many more insensitive, misogynist, heteronormative, patriarchy inspired cliche postures to discuss (did I miss a word?). Enjoy.

    December 1, 2010 at 12:21 pm

  35. Paul Sousa

    Jorge is a douche.


    December 1, 2010 at 12:30 pm

  36. KittyMcTaco

    Tyler, this was not in MLA format. Tisk tisk 😉

    – Jenn

    December 1, 2010 at 12:49 pm

    • ILiftAlone

      Maybe your too young to remember he 80’s. Dressing up like a girl is nothing new. Just look up the popular bands during the 80’s and you will see that these are just fads that come and go. I guess that doesn’t matter though because its your opinion…

      It must be really frustrating to have to think about why you really think this way. But if this discussion bothers you so much why not just disable the comments?

      December 1, 2010 at 1:26 pm

  37. R

    Congratulations, you are now a true man for picking on preteen Harry Potter fans.

    December 1, 2010 at 1:34 pm

  38. Tyler Minton

    If it’s “nothing new”, and therefore has become a regularity, how does it come and “go”? Great reasoning. I don’t disable the comments because I enjoy them, really. As I said, you continue to prove my point, and it’s much appreciated.

    If you read my article you will find that I am also a proud “Harry Potter Fan” so I’m not picking on them. Also, since I didn’t actually say this too any of the children their, I find it hard to consider it “picking” on them. Thank you for your patronage though, and please continue to post. You will make a nice addition to those who are already making my beliefs more solid.

    December 1, 2010 at 1:44 pm

    • ILiftAlone

      It is nothing new because it happens every so often when the fad comes back in style. By having already happened before, and coming and going at different time periods, it comes and goes and is nothing new.

      December 1, 2010 at 9:07 pm

      • Ruben

        Foppishness makes periodic comebacks. Just like herpes and athlete’s foot. Just like with the latter two, it doesn’t mean you should stop fighting it.

        May 17, 2011 at 8:46 am

  39. squatsfordinner?

    i am way too concerned about the same exact things you wrote about in your article. i drive by the playgrounds where my friends and i used to play stickball, football, baseball, basketball and whatever else we were up to, and they are empty. i don’t see uncles and dads out playing half-ball with their sons up at the middle school anymore. i don’t know where they all are. what the hell are they doing? i’m only 31, so i’m not all that far removed from my hey day – these kids are only 1 generation removed from me. i mean, we still get together and play wiffle ball in the summer and football on the weekends now. it’s just what we’ve always done. i just don’t understand where all the kids are and what they’re doing. i guess they’re dressing up like wizards and warlocks somewhere.

    i guess it’s all in how someone is raised. my dad and my uncles were hard-headed irishmen. they loved sports and beer. so, that’s what i knew, and as a result, it’s what i liked, too. i got whacked around by my dad when i threw a chinese star at a kid and got caught stealing or when i talked back to mom. i also got whipped up on by people that i said the wrong thing to. it’s all about being humbled. if someone punches you in the chin and knocks you silly because you said something to him that he didn’t like, it humbles you. that’s how you learn to respect people. the problem with society is that people don’t respect other people.

    now, i hope my little guy grows up to like the same shit i do because i can’t wait to take him to phillies games and play stickball and halfies, etc. but what if he doesn’t? then what? i don’t know. what if he wants to dress up like a wizard and go waving a stick around at the opening of some sci-fi movie? who knows, man?

    i guess what i’m trying to say is that you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink it. i can sit here with my little dude for the next 10 years tossing a ball back and forth watching baseball on tv, but what do i do when he walks down the steps dressed like a hobbit? guys like you and me went down the same sort of path as our pops, but some kids might not.

    one thing i will not tolerate, however, are pink/purple shirts and those fucking square tipped black shoes that the metrosexuals are wearing these days. the little man can do whatever he wants otherwise, but i’ve got to draw the line somewhere. you know what i’m saying?

    December 1, 2010 at 8:50 pm

  40. Vim

    Last post on this subject for me, as i think this whole thing has been analysed to death.

    Lets get some perspective – this has somehow gone from talking about Harry Potter and playing outside as a kid rather than watching TV, to people making judgements on Tyler to the point where he’s now apparently misogynist gay-basher. How can you possibly come to these conclusions without ever even meeting the guy? Sure, disagree with his point in this post if you want, but leave it at that.

    Over analysing things THIS much, is precisely why we live in such a bullshit politically correct world today. What’s next, teachers having to call blackboards chalkboards, because it might be offensive? …Oh wait…

    December 1, 2010 at 9:24 pm

  41. Mowgli

    I read this article days ago, probably within hours of it going up. I had no intention of writing a response but two days later and the thing is still bothering me. If nothing else I’ve got to write this thing so I can get it out of my head and let it go.

    Honestly, I don’t even know where to begin. I want to take this whole article, copy it and tear through it line by line. Point out every inconsistency and contradiction that’s been posted here by the author and any person who’s posted in support of this… But I won’t. It’s too much energy, my point wouldn’t come through clear and by the end I’d have worked myself into a pissed off rage. Instead, I’m going to swallow every insult and biting remark I’d like to make and just tell you about myself and my views on society.

    Trace literature back a few thousand years and you’ll find Plato bitching about how ridiculous and worthless this upcoming generation of kids he’s dealing with is. (Seriously it’s out there). This idea is nothing new and it kills me when people get that little taste of enlightenment that comes with choosing the hard life and suddenly they’re Zeus, just itching to hurl lightning bolts at the pathetic mortals who haven’t found their way yet. Idea: Instead of scorning everyone who doesn’t meet our standards, drop the over shield of great badassery and talk to the people around us. Maybe we’d find that some of these people aren’t hopeless, pathetic wimps. Maybe some of them are fascinating people who could teach us something. And in turn would want to know about the way we live. I had teachers along the way and so did you.

    Damn, It almost makes me scream with laughter, thinking about halloween last month. I went out partying as Frank-N-Furter from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Make up, corset, stilettos and stockings. Everywhere I go there are these ridiculous, insecure hyper-alpha-males who work themselves into an uncomfortable rage because they don’t know whether or not I’m an affront to their dignity. They’re too terrified of someone questioning their masculinity to even wear a costume when they go out on halloween. Instead, they prefer to stand around reassuring each other and mumbling under their breath about that weirdo, not having any idea of the history of the guy under the wig.

    Basically, here’s what’s at the core of all this. This is what I see when I read this post.
    Down with the pathetic and the weak of heart! “Damn Right!”
    Fuck the irresponsible and those that will never grow up! “Hell yes!”
    Rid society of the undriven and the those that leech off the hard work of others! “Preach it brother!”
    And anyone that acts in socially deviant ways that my father wouldn’t have approved of is the cause of this shit!!! “……………………….. No.”

    I can’t help but wonder if this is really the sentiment of this place. I read the “10 Commandments of Villainy” that these guys are wanting on a T-Shirt and it’s in complete contrast to what I’m seeing here. I thought this was supposed to be about growing as a person, ignoring the forces that seek to hold you back and living as a powerful individual… Instead all I see are a bunch of insecure men circle jerking each other and talking about how cool it is that they’re so much harder than the average 14 year old.

    Basically here it is. Being yourself, using physical training as a tool to harden your mind and body, and remaining humble even though you could dominate the weaker people around you… That’s Villainy. I’m with you.

    Bullying, false-hyper masculinity and making fun of kids who aren’t so petrified of wanna-be hard asses looking down on them that they’ll go out and have some weird fun… That’s bullshit. Count me out.

    December 1, 2010 at 10:19 pm

  42. Tyler Minton

    Welcome… First off, let me say thank you for comparing me to Plato- I’m a big fan. I’m not sure about comparing me to Zeus though, but again, thank you. Now, before you “scream with laughter”, loosen up your corset, let down your hair, and remove your stilleto’s so you won’t be distracted and can let this sink in.

    People like you are the reason people like me, and the others on this site exist. Yea, you heard me. You spineless, elitist, coward. I’m one of the nicest guys you could ever hope to meet. In fact, I’m not sure I had any real enemies until this article. However, when idiots like yourself begin to insult me because you think you are better than me and others becasue you are so “open minded” I could care less if you like me. In fact, if people like you were liking me, I would probably not be liked by the people that matter.

    It’s easy for “men” like you to sit behind your keyboard and talk tough because of your own insecurities because you actually do nothing in life of any real value, while guys like me work hard in a field that you wouldn’t last 5 minutes in. I’m not trying to prove my masculinity with this article. I wake up every single morning and prove my masculinity by being the kind of guy you only wish you could be.

    Don’t even talk to me about “Being yourself, using physical training as a tool to harden your mind and body”. As I said, your spineless back wouldn’t make it a day in my shoes.

    If articles like mine are weeding a garden thats full of cowards like yourself, the greater population on this site will only appreciate it.

    Now, put your corset and pumps back on and relish in the fact that you’re comfortable in your own skin. After all, that’s what it’s all about, right?

    December 1, 2010 at 11:23 pm

  43. Tyler Minton

    Great post bud. Thanks for sharing. That’s really how it should be approached. I would love for my son to grow up and play football and wrestle in school, just like dad. I’m not saying I would want him to be a fighter like I am, but I would still be proud nevertheless.

    What if he didn’t do these things and instead decided he wanted to play in the band? Well, you better he will be practicing his butt off and not settling to be a mediocre musician! I’m not blaming children for liking Harry Potter or other fantasy stories. As I’ve said many times, I’ll be 23 in a few days and will still wait in line for hours at Wal Mart to get a copy of a new Harry Potter book, should the author decide to write another.

    The whole point of my article that many are trying to skew is this: I observed something that we have all observed. However, I observed it in a very large quantity that night. It just really got me thinking… Now, does it mean that every teenager dressed up who was in that theater is a social deviant who will most likely be gay? Absolutely not. I simply observed a large quantity of individuals displaing a behavior that would have been embarassingly immature a decade ago.

    This observation just led me to think about my disgust at broader society for its increasing non-conformist ideology and masculinity witch hunts.

    Thanks again for your post. I enjoyed reading it!

    December 2, 2010 at 12:42 am

  44. Brandon Sexton

    As my old drill sergeant once told someone. “Slap Yourself in the face, and MAKE IT COUNT”

    December 2, 2010 at 5:08 am

    • Tyler Minton

      Now Mr. Sexton… That’s not a very open minded way of looking at things. Your “bullying, false-hyper masculinity” is daunting…

      In fact, your Drill Sgt. should not have been so angry and raised his voice. After all, you Army recruits were simply trying to be comfortable in your own skin and were probably messing up because you were being open minded and consdering other, more socially acceptable options, rather than listening to his time proven, more widely accepted way of doing things. After all, with all that yelling, many of you may have felt pressured to become masculine individuals and God forbid come out of boot camp tough, and mature.

      December 2, 2010 at 9:33 am

  45. emo4life


    December 2, 2010 at 4:11 pm

  46. bluecheese

    I little cosplay never hurt anyone. But really, who are you to judge? If they want to dress like little Voldemorts, I tell ’em have at it.

    December 2, 2010 at 5:56 pm

  47. KONG

    The commenters that have taken offense by Tyler M.’s writing really need to calm down. There seems to be a rather large chip on some people’s shoulders.

    To me, Tyler M. is just voicing his frustrations on what he saw at the movies. It comes across as a rant from a tired/frustrated person who needs some sleep. (I don’t know Tyler M. so I can’t look into it any further than that.)

    Obviously, what he saw perturbed him enough to write about it. Its good that he got it out and hopefully it provided him some catharsis.

    Although the title of the piece is “Harry Potter and the Feminization of America”, it is my opinion that Tyler’s point has nothing to do with Harry Potter or Feminization. These are just the words chosen for the title but you actually have to READ to understand his point.

    There are two themes in this piece. They are as follows:

    1. The first theme is a clear statement: “The answer is simple- Society has pushed “tough” out the door, and accepted “sensitive”.”

    2. The second is this: Parents need to accept the responsiblity for preparing the youth for the future. (Tyler M. constantly states his gratitude for the way his parents raised him and that he is happy with the way he is.)

    What do I agree with?

    I definitely agree with the second theme of this piece. Parents do need to step up in a lot of cases and do their job. Being the father of a 2 year old, I realize that this starts from DAY ONE, and I’m also very grateful for the way my parents raised me…good or bad, I turned out alright and am doing well for myself and now for my family.

    The first theme though is kind of iffy. When you take a look at adjacent generations, the older generation is always “tougher” than the younger. In the grand scheme of things, humans will take the path of least resistance. Its how our species has persisted, and will continue to persist.

    Think about it for a minute (bear with me as I call out Mr. Minton for a second). Tyler M. says this in the write-up, “In the two hours we had to wait for the movie to begin (yes- 120 minutes).” Modern man scoffs at waiting for two hours…forget that the waiting is for doing something for enjoyment (watching a movie and spending time with his mother…which by the way, is a sensitive thing to do). Two hours of waiting at the movies is insignificant. I realize Tyler M. was tired and frustrated but it really isn’t “tough” to bitch about such things. Society IS to blame for this…BUT this is the way of the species.

    I don’t think my grandfather (or father for that matter) would have been upset to wait two hours to see a movie that their mom was taking them to go see. They’d be happy if their mom COULD take them to the movies much less wait for two hours. Heck, I don’t think they had movies when my Grandfather was 20. He grew up in a plantation working fields in Jamaica. He is the toughest man I know still alive. I will never be that tough…and I actually never aspire to be but I’ve learned a lot through him. Anyway Back to the point…

    My point is (not to come down too hard on anyone) that we are all a product of a continually “softening” society.

    None of us know what HARD work is and thus cannot comment on it. What we think is HARD would be inconsequential to our forefathers. Let that sink in.


    The take-aways are these: Be grateful for your parents. You will never be as tough as they are. If you are a parent be responsible and do your best for your kids. When they are older, you will come to the realization that they will never have to be as tough as you are, and that doesn’t matter. Raise them to appreciate and be grateful for you and other people that have come before them, so that they could have the life that they have. Raise them to be responsible so that they do the best they can for their kids. You can’t control others. You can only can control yourself and do what’s right for your own. Life is too short to waste time judging others and getting frustrated about shit you can’t control. Do you and fuck all else!

    I wrote entirely too much on this topic but this discussion frustrated me enough to write about it. I’ve just wasted time worrying about people I don’t know think. Fuck me! I need to listen to my own advice.

    Off the soapbox.

    December 3, 2010 at 11:00 am

  48. Tyler Minton

    Very good write up brother. You hit the nail on the head. The title of the article was an “eye catcher” and truthfully wasn’t even created by me. You hit my two points perfectly though. I agree with you that generations are constantly getting weaker and that’s just the way it goes. In fact, my grandfather, who passed away just a year ago lived with Rheumatoid Arthritis for over 40 years. He could barely walk but NEVER complained. He was the toughest man I’ve ever met in my life and I doubt I will ever meet tougher…

    Anyways, just so you don’t think I’m an ungrateful son, I wasn’t upset about spending time with my mom for two hours- just the other others… In fact, I’m getting Married in 6 months so it was nice to continue our tradition of attending the movies.

    Lastly, I wasn’t trying to sound like a tough guy in my article. I simply wrote about an observation I made.

    Once again, thank you for the post. You even provided constructive criticism in a very humble, professional way, and that speaks volumes about you.

    Lastly, kudos to you for using the word “catharsis” and clearly understanding its meaning… You’re probably one of the few who will ever use that word before they die…Ha

    December 3, 2010 at 4:48 pm

  49. KONG

    I totally get what you are saying in the article. I can see you are a great son and you respect and love your parents.

    I just think some of the people who commented didn’t read the article objectively. They brought their baggage into it and decided to pick a beef with you. They are incapable of taking themselves out of it and put themselves in your shoes as you have written. Those people should look at themselves and ask themselves, “Why am I so mad at a few paragraphs about a situation that I didn’t experience, and a few statements about a softening of society?” Of course, such logical thought would be too difficult for these people and they would still blame you for their baggage.

    Unfortunately, such is the nature of the human. Blaming others is easier than taking accountability…and path of least resistance right!

    You have shown lots of strength to write this and by putting your name on it, you have taken accountability. Something many of these ticked commenters have NOT the balls to do.

    You are the one who deserves the kudos.

    And…catharsis is an awesome villainous word.

    December 3, 2010 at 7:11 pm

  50. JM3

    The only thing worse than 13 year olds dressing up like fairies and swishing twigs…. is a big muscle guy whining about it.

    Tyler- you got a problem dude- your daddy whipped you too damn much.

    December 4, 2010 at 12:01 am

  51. Tyler Minton

    You said “fairies” my friend, not I. Thank you for your critique on my childhood, but at this point I’m pretty much over you web warriors bashing me days after my comments were made… If you don’t agree with me, thats OK. The awesome thing is that you don’t have to. You and the others also have the right to hide your real name, as you all have bravely taken advantage of. It really doesn’t matter though. I’m sure if I were to Google your real name, I would find nothing, as you are a nobody.

    December 4, 2010 at 10:17 am

  52. JM3

    Yeah- Im a nobody Tyler- same as you- only difference is I dont parlay that into anything other than what it is.

    A man is a man because he is honest, works hard, and has a dream.

    I dont care if he wears stillettos or a singlet. a rifle or smokes a cigarette- all choices, some bad, but its what’s inside that is there to be measured.

    Strength is in character – not affect- and you show your character by how you looked at these kids- and how you answer honest criticism of your beliefs

    you decided to shit on the net- and some people called you on it- and how you responded to them says all anyone needs to know about you. No big deal- Ive done it myself- we all have. but be man enough to take points of people who have a different take on it than you do.

    Strength is a lot of things man- and Id say a couple of 13 year olds braving the world in a costume like that with a few dudes like you holding opinions about it the way you do is way braver than your feeble attempt at internet chest pounding over it.

    December 5, 2010 at 6:39 am

  53. JM3

    I should add that you are good enough to let people disagree with you vociferously – even if youre not that gracious in your rejoinders- that speaks volumes- but the article? pure pussiness..

    December 5, 2010 at 6:41 am

  54. JM3

    acutally – I should apologize- I missed the part about you being 22.

    All of what I said will become apparent- you havent failed at anything yet- thats the only real way to learn about values and respecting people for their choices.. Good luck to you. Its not as if I dont sometimes share your type of revulsions- but after awhile you learn to withhold judgement because (as a fighter you must know this?) Most everyones got something you dont- most everyone.

    December 5, 2010 at 6:47 am

  55. CainiaC

    Hey Tyler, great article. I think part of the castration of America is that if you raise your hand to your kids, the fucking idiot UN and child protection services comes up with some shit like Children’s Rights to Divorce Their Parents, like some children of the corn shit or something. Discipline bad, lack of structure and manly guidance good.

    PS that was nice of you to humor your mom and wait for two hours to see that movie at midnight, you’re a good guy.

    December 16, 2010 at 3:05 pm

  56. Joseph H

    I have known Tyler for a long time. As a matter of fact, I would like to think I was one of the one’s that “toughened” him up. I couldn’t agree more with his article. As the parent of two small boys I plan to raise my children the same way I was. Love Jesus, respect your elders, be on your best behavior at all times or pay the price ie. Leather Belt.

    December 23, 2010 at 10:08 pm

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  58. Trebin (mark)

    Great article, I am just not catching up on all my reading on this website. I am now 30 years old and I definitely think the world is progressing towards the mangina. It disgusts me to see these scrawny kids and all of their fake tough bullshit everywhere. What is funny now days is seeing the fat or even super skinny trashy guys or kids wearing tapout shirts knowing damn well if you went up and clocked them they would just probably stare at me or lay there crying.

    Maybe me being and feeling the way I do about most men these days is how I was brought up. Similar to what you have said, my dad was a hardass and my mom was worse if you crossed that line. I started my first job when I was 13 on a farm outside of town and that was the hardest damn thing I have ever done in my life and I loved every minute of it. I have since became overweight and I am determined to get back in shape.

    Again, great read.

    June 1, 2011 at 10:37 am

  59. adhiguna

    I cannot believe that there is still a guy like you in America. I am an Indonesian guy and I really sick to my stomach seeing the man with vagina all over America, check out this, there is a trend that American guy change his name to his wife’s.


    August 23, 2011 at 12:09 pm

  60. JoshEpps

    Tyler, you are truly a vagina.

    September 29, 2011 at 8:13 pm

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