Mental Preparedness for Self Defense- Podcast Episode 5 Included


A common question that I receive from clients, and one that I’ve recently received in the VillainSix Podcast Questions thread on the forum from a UK reader, pertains to how one can and should prepare themselves mentally for the unthinkable situation in which they are forced to use violence in defense of their life or the lives of those whom they care about.

This post is intended to address this topic and provide the reader with some thought provoking material about what is necessary to “make ready” to do horrible things to horrible people should the need arise.

First, imagine this…

“You’re out at night with someone close to you… your wife, a girlfriend, maybe simply the lucky lass who caught your eye and agreed (obviously) to go out with you. The air is crisp, the sky is clear and the moon is full. It’s damn romantic. You decide to take a stroll together, soak up that fresh, sexy night time atmosphere. You’re both feeling like things will end well tonight. So you head toward the car, cross the parking lot, dimly lit, empty, desolate… some guy in a hood approaches. You see he has a knife. You see him point it towards your female companion as he demands your valuables, saying “Your money, and those Apple Phones bitches”. He calls you a pussy, a bitch… and calls your lady a whore as he enjoys a long look up and down your woman’s ample curves, the same curves that attracted you when you first laid eyes on her. 

His accomplice emerges from behind him, gun held low at his side, and says “Damn! , let’s do this motherfucker and then take this bitches ass”.

What happens next?”

At this point I’m compelled to comment on the disturbing fact that in today’s world more and more men are of the erroneous belief that it is not their personal responsibility to protect the lives of their loved ones. The shared belief among these unfortunate souls is that the police are paid to “protect and serve”, and that they will take care of your personal protection.

While this post is certainly not intended to be diss of police as a whole, I do want to do everything in my power to dispel the dangerous myth that keep the modern man from being the dangerous, capable individual that he needs to be, and that his loved ones need and look to him to be.

The responsibility is yours exclusively.

Law enforcement can not be everywhere that you need them to be when you need them, much less are they capable of predicting where they will be needed. In today’s violent and unpredictable world, the knowledge of how to incapacitate would be asocial attackers is as valuable and relevant as ever.

Simply put, if you are in a situation where incapacitating a man (or men), or even using lethal force is warranted, there will be absolutely no other skill that you can possess that will save your life.

Now for me to be blunt…

Taking the “ostrich” route, ignoring this fact by choice, and instead choosing to “bury your head in the sand” to become invisible to the horrors that lurk the dark corners and well lit affluent areas of the world with equal prevalence, is irresponsible and places the blame for the horrible consequences of a violent attack solely on your shoulders.

Many think that if they were not reared in a “rough neighborhood”, or other environment where they were exposed to, or otherwise compelled to engage in violence at a young age that there is no hope for them as a grown man.

The capacity to be the dangerous, lethal (when necessary), nightmare of a potential “victim” of asocial violence must elude this person by default because they did not have the experience that other, more “rough around the edges” types possess. This without a shadow of a doubt a factual inaccuracy.

Many admirable character traits are demonstrated by those who did have a bit of a shittier hand dealt to them in their upbringing frequently, but that does not in any way mean that the individual who is not as much of a “tough guy” or even who was born with the proverbial “silver spoon is his mouth” , does not have the ability to do what’s needed when it matters.

I’ve trained and worked alongside fighting men who would be the worst nightmare of someone hell bent on causing them harm, who, prior to training, lacked the confidence and skill to effectively protect themselves or others if called upon to do so. In fact, I’ve trained more guys that fit this bill than guys who were more naturally “tough”. Frankly, and with no intended offense to the MMA crowd, most of the “tough guy” types get involved with combat sports like Mixed Martial Arts more often than seeking instruction on how to actually combat the type of real world violence that they are unfortunately likely in this day and age to someday face.

Bottom line is; if you consider yourself a guy who would not know what to do if your life were in danger, or who fears that even armed with the physical skills necessary to incapacitate dangerous human beings, you would not possess the correct mindset to implement your skills, I assure you that not only is there hope for you, there is also a direct path which you can choose to travel which will prepare you both mentally and physically to do battle with the ugliest, and nastiest of the world’s predators.

The attached podcast was recorded to address some of the material that I cover in my courses here at “The Greyskull Academy of Combat Sciences” pertaining to the development of the appropriate mental framework for being a dangerous bastard, capable of doing harm to those who would harm you. Give it a listen.

If you are as serious as you should be about learning more about this valuable, life-saving material, there is simply no substitute for live training in these skills. If you are willing and able to invest in yourself, and get hands on training in the skills you will need to save your life in an unimaginable, asocially violent conflict, I encourage you to register for our December “Greyskull Academy of Combat Sciences Basic Combat Course” held here at the academy this December 6,7, and 8th. This marks a limited opportunity to train here in person, and benefit from the installation of skills that comes with a concentrated three days of immersion in this material. I hope to see as many of you present as possible.

NOTE: If you are interested in attending the event DON’T SIGN UP YET!

I am about to release a special deal on admission in the next few days. If you want to capitalize on the tremendous savings that will result, and reserve your spot before the sale goes public, email me direct at for details.

Additionally, if you are insterested in learning more about the physical side of personal defense but are for whatever reason unable to attend the December event, I encourage you to read my groundbreaking release “Principles of Violence”. This title provides a broad overview of the very principles taught to students in my courses, is loaded with photos and detailed examples of methodology in practice, and can be had for a fraction of the cost of live instruction.

Here’s the podcast guys, enjoy, and as always, your comments and questions are welcome, both here and on the forum.

VillainSix Podcast Episode 5. Right Click to Download


3 Responses

  1. Matt

    Great podcast. For those altercations that you describe as bar fights, that don’t escalate into life or death, what skills/martial art do you recommend people practice for those types of situations?

    November 6, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    • Matt I think you just inspired another show. Look for an episode on your question to be released within the next week or so.

      November 6, 2013 at 7:40 pm

      • Matt

        Looking forward to it.

        November 6, 2013 at 9:07 pm

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